I (24 m) just moved in with my boyfriend (21 m) a few weeks ago. I knew he had sleep apnea and a CPAP, and when I’ve stayed with him before he’s worn his CPAP and it’s never bothered me. Since moving in, he’s worn it maybe twice in two weeks. The snoring doesn’t bother me, but I worry about him. He sleeps 12+ hours a day despite being pretty sedentary and still complains he’s exhausted when he gets up. I often read in bed at night, and a few days ago I think I heard him wake up gasping. He’s had his CPAP for a while now and I guess I assumed he wore it every night before, but I have no idea how often he wore it. He says he doesn’t like it because he sleeps on his stomach and he only has mild apnea so he doesn’t need it. Admittedly I don’t know much about sleep apnea, but I’ve read horrible things about how it can lead to heart problems if left untreated. Again, the snoring doesn’t bother me at all, but hearing him gasp for breath scared the living daylights out of me. Beyond that, this level of exhaustion has made life difficult for both of us. I hate seeing him so tired all the time, and sleeping that much even before the exhaustion makes it hard to do much with him. I’m a really active person, but he won’t even go on walks with me because he’s so tired. We’re trying to move into a better apartment, but the day is half over by the time he’s up and ready to start looking with me. He’s talked about getting another sleep study to see what’s wrong, but they aren’t scheduling them now because of COVID and honestly, I think not wearing his CPAP has to be at least part of it. I asked if he could try wearing it for a while to see if he slept better and he did try for one night, but said he couldn’t sleep well and didn’t try again the next night. There’s no way sleeping this much can be normal, and I want to be able to have a healthy, happy life with him. At the end of the day I know it’s his choice, but I’d love for him to at least give it another shot for a week or so and see if it helps him. Is there anything I can do to convince him to wear his CPAP?
Sorry for all the rambling. tl;dr my boyfriend moved in a few weeks ago, won’t wear his CPAP because he said it makes it harder to sleep, but he sleeps 12+ hours a day and still says he’s tired and I don’t know how to help.